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Issue 12 | The Pragmatic Leader

Rational Mastermind INTJ - Peter Drucker

IS THERE AN
ANTiDOTE to
craziness?

In our last issue of the Keirsey Magazine, there was an article entitled “Dating Different Kinds of Crazy,” where we looked at the question, “Why do people go insane, crazy, sick, mad, or bonkers? And does it manifest differently based on one’s temperament?” In other words, what causes someone to go crazy, and do we go crazy in different ways? In summary, we explained how feelings of worthlessness are at the root of what causes insanity, and that depending on one’s temperaments, one goes crazy in different ways. (If you need a refresher on what we wrote about, take a look on the next page, on the side note: “Why and How Different Temperaments Go Crazy.”)

An interesting statement Dr. Keirsey made in relation to this was about who is best equipped to deal with the mentally insane. He said, “It’s definitely not the medics who have the answers for mental illness.” He stated that the approach of many medics was to diagnose a patient with some kind of mental disorder and then prescribe a drug that pharmaceutical companies have manufactured to address symptomatic behaviors (and not root causes.) He claimed that psychotropic drugs may mask some symptoms, but that they are not able to address the underlying feelings of worthlessness which caused the behaviors of insanity in the first place.

Dr. Keirsey referred to himself as a mythologist, and identified as being agnostic, and yet he expressed emphatically, “I believe that the insane are best dealt with by the church. It’s not the medics, it’s the clergy that can best help the insane.” Why is this the case? He stated simply, “It’s because the church provides instant worth to those who feel worthless.” His reasoning was that because feelings of worthlessness are the root of all madness, the church has a transformative effect for the insane by declaring that an individual has worth.

The idea that we have worth to an infinite God, who is supremely worthy, is a powerful concept to someone who feels worthless. When someone enters a faith community feeling worthless, worrying about if they will be rejected, and yet, are embraced instead of being shunned, it can feel so amazing. The greatest fear of someone who feels worthless, is to be abandoned. So being embraced ends up obliterating any feelings of abandonment. The ideas of hope, redemption, and love serve as the utmost surprise for someone who was written off as being unworthy.

The message of the church is readily received, because love is communicated through words and deeds; and this makes all the difference in the world. As someone who was irreligious, Dr. Keirsey was not partial to any specific religion as the answer, but he believed that as long as that religion, faith community, or spiritual group provided a clear message of love, and a pathway to redemption, that this would adequately address insanity. It did not matter whether it was Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Hinduism, Buddhism, or any other belief system. For example, the idea that a loving God would send his one and only Son to die for undeserving human beings, was evidence that people were worth it to make such a sacrifice (Christianity). Or the idea that worthless, sinful human beings could find redemption by various rituals, sacrifices, or prayers, to regain their worth, could also work (Judaism). The idea that one could observe commandments and offer devotion to be deemed worthy was also a way that could help someone regain their sense of worth (Islam). The idea that one could earn a higher status in a next life by doing good deeds, was also a way that could elevate ones worthlessness to a place of worth (Hinduism). The idea that one could attain liberation from the cyclical patterns of bondage by one’s deeds was also a viable way to address the root causes of worthlessness (Buddhism). The bottom line was that religion was able to offer a message that one was loved, and that there was a roadway to regain one’s worth.

Whether relegated through the sacred texts of a religion, or facilitated by the members of a faith community, the fact that there is a way to be deemed as no longer worthless, provides the ultimate answer. To someone who feels worthless, the fact that there is a road to redemption breaks the shackles of madness. Most religious traditions teach that mere mortals can talk to the divine, and the thought that we are worthy to be heard, understood, and embraced by a deity brings great hope. Dr. Keirsey said, “What the clergy offers is an answer that’s transformational for someone who feels worthless.” In this article, we will take a brief look at how faith, spirituality, and religion specifically can help Artisans, Guardians, Idealists, and Rationals.`


Excerpted from the article, “Dating Different Kinds of Crazy.”

WHY & HOW DIFFERENT TEMPERAMENTS GO CRAZY

At Keirsey, one of the areas we have been researching for several decades is madness. Dr. Keirsey often posed the question, “Why do people go insane, crazy, sick, mad, or bonkers? And does it manifest differently based on one’s temperament?” In other words, what causes someone to go crazy, and do we go crazy in different ways? In this article, we’re going to address these two questions.

So, the first question is, “Why do people go crazy?” In short, we believe that people go crazy when they feel worthless. Our research indicates that when an individual feels worthless, every attempt is made by that individual to cover up their worthlessness. Why the cover up? When you think about what happens to worthless things, it makes sense to ensure that we are never found out to be worthless. After all, when something is worthless to us, what do we do with it? We abandon it. It gets thrown out. We dessert those things which have no value to us. Anything that is worthless gets tossed or set aside. The thought of personally being abandoned, thrown out, deserted, tossed, or set aside is something any of us would want to avoid at all costs.

So, what are the options? Well, if we can cover up our worthlessness, then we protect ourselves from being abandoned. When you’re at your lowest, the easiest solution is to cause a distraction, which diverts attention away from our worthlessness. Instead of remaining worthless, we would rather be insane, crazy, sick, mad, or bonkers—because a person in this state is paid attention to, whereas a worthless person is abandoned. A person who is crazy gets cared for, while a person who is worthless is discarded. The truth is, we all have our crazy moments. And based on which of the four temperaments we are talking about, we go crazy in different ways.

ARTISAN

impulsive

Syllabification: im-pul-sive

Definition of impulsive in English: adjective

Acting or done without forethought


When an Artisan feels worthless, they need a bold and radical encounter of love. They need to experience the supernatural in a way that is powerful, wild, crazy, and unbelievable. They operate by adventure and awakenings, and this only occurs when an experience is outside the norm. They want something extraordinary. When Artisans are spiraling down in their self-worth, they look for whatever stimulates. They dive head first into their impulses. Specifically, they look for physical pleasure. Their stand out nature turns into an acting out. Sex, drugs, and rock ‘n’ roll becomes their immediate go-to-place. To see, hear, taste, touch, and smell something amazing matters. They’re looking for a rush. A church is often the last place they’d want to step foot into, but if they did, a place that would connect provides an experience where their senses are engaged.Art, music, dance, fragrances, and ambiance all make a difference. A charismatic leader with strength, who challenges, engages, and calls a person to immediate action goes a long way. You reach Artisans by engaging them physically, by asking them to use their hands for good, and to walk in a new direction with their feet.

GUARDIAN

depression

Syllabification: de-pressed

Definition of depression in English: adjective

(Of a person) in a state of general unhappiness or despondency


When a Guardian feels worthless, they need a reset button pressed, and a clear program to regain their respectability. Their method of madness is depression. They shut down because they feel overwhelmed by the insurmountable number of responsibilities they have failed to address. When they can’t be reliable, of service, and respectable, they spiral down into shame, feeling that they are good for nothing. These individuals seek approval, and need to be offered a fresh start. They also need a way to earn their way back to redemption. They need to be forgiven, and then guided toward taking responsibility for their second chance. Guardians have the hardest time handling shame. It ruins them, but when they can do something to regain their honor, they start to feel better about themselves. Confession, penance, punishment, and restitution all work in their economy of blame and credit. Where they were once at fault in their old life, they can build their way back out of the hole that they’ve fallen into. When they’ve been found as guilty, they feel better after they’ve been punished, fined, or done their time. It is as though justice has been served and they can start all over again.

IDEALIST

hysterical

Syllabification: hys-ter-i-cal

Definition of hysterical in English: adjective

Deriving from or affected by uncontrolled extreme emotion


When an Idealist feels worthless, they need tenderness. They need someone to come alongside and show empathy. They need support, they need someone to whom they can confess their fears, worries, and doubts. They want to connect heart-to-heart, soul-to-soul, to cry with someone, to be embraced, to be loved with gentleness. They want to be able to authentically express themselves. They need someone who will share their pain, so that they don’t feel alone in their journey. The way to reach an Idealist is through their emotions. When a leader, counselor, or friend bears their soul, an Idealist feels like they can get through it because they feel like they’re not the only crazy one. Their method of madness is to breakdown into hysteria. The reason for this is because their world is all interconnected. When something falls apart, their whole world feels like it’s crashing. It usually comes out in panic, and bursts of emotion, especially sadness. When they are in shambles with their self-esteem, they experience feelings of intense emotional pain. The best way to reach them is to provide a shoulder to cry on, a warm embrace, and an authentic connection. Touching the heart is where it’s all at.

RATIONAL

obsession

Syllabification: ob-ses-sion

Definition of obsession in English: noun

Preoccupy or fill the mind of (someone/something) continually, intrusively, and to a troubling extent


When a Rational feels worthless, they need a solution to their problem. They need to hear something relevant to their lives. Their method of madness is to become obsessive. So if there’s a message that relates to their obsession, they’re ready to listen. If they’re being asked to give any of their time or attention to anything outside of this, they will get annoyed, or shut you out. They want insight, perspective, and knowledge. They spiral downward when they’ve been dumbfounded or blind sighted by something that they never anticipated, and so they fall into that place where they have to figure out what went wrong. As long as they can’t figure it out, their issue remains at the forefront of their mind, as they fixate on nothing else. These self-sufficient, self-defined, self-directed pragmatists are the least likely to be religious, or to subscribe to a belief in any kind of higher power. But, if they are reached, it’s going to happen because their minds are stimulated. If the message of the church makes sense, and can explain their life in a way that is superior to their viewpoint, they are very open minded about changing their views.

Making Sense of Spirituality

Each of the temperaments finds comfort in the divine when it does something for them. What makes sense for one person may not seem all that sensible to another. That is why spirituality is a different journey for each of us. In this article we take a glimpse at the central themes of the spiritual pursuit for each of the temperaments.

Spiritual Disciplines

They say that most human beings (irrespective of their temperament type) become spiritually engaged during times of difficulty, challenge, loss, or because of some kind of awakening. Different temperaments practice their spirituality in different ways. They are often referred to as spiritual disciplines.